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Three Biggest Dating Mistakes And How To Avoid Them
Dating is a wonderful thing though it’s a tricky task especially when it’s one’s first time. We covered some dating preparations for men before, and now we are digging even deeper to see the mistakes that both men and women make.
Just like any sport, there are fouls, winners, strikes and even losers. That’s why experts will tell you that before you find the right match, you’ll have to deal first with a few crappy contenders. Well, that sounds funny doesn’t it?
It’s what happens in real life situations. Having spent time with love gurus, we’ve come to realize that dating succeeds when one avoids making the common mistakes. So what are these mistakes? Here are the worst ones and how you can avoid them.
1. Failing to Vet Your Partner Properly
When you meet for the first time, you need to take the time to get facts about your partner before going ahead to make him/her your special one. The greatest mistake that most of us make is allowing testosterone, oxytocin, and dopamine to take control of us.
Well, excitement is good but failing to control it will only lead to regrets later. You ought to be patient and find out if, indeed, your potential partner is the right match for you.
You should find out if the person you intend to start your dating journey together truly loves you, treats you well and you feel happy together. With that, you’ll find that person you’ve been wishing to have as your dating partner. Ask all those friends and family members about the secrets to dating, and they will tell you that it begins with finding the right person.
Never allow excitement and one-day meeting to make you unhappy once you start dating.
2. Dating With Unrealistic Expectations
It’s okay to hope for great things but dating with unrealistic expectations might lead to disappointment later. In fact, what you are doing when you set unrealistic expectations is that you are preparing yourself for a letdown that might break your heart. To avoid this common mistake, you ought to kick-start dating with a mind that’s open to all possibilities. Expect good but be prepared for anything that comes your way.
Don’t fix your mind on those great things you anticipate. That’s why love gurus will tell you that some partners are meant to teach you lessons. You need to understand your faults and move on from them to be a good partner. This is why the first few relationships do not go as planned for most people.
3.Baring It Immediately
Well, this may sound old school but throwing yourself under those sheets a few days or even on your first date is wrong.
You, of course, know that no game starts with the climax. Therefore, don’t let that person get the goodies upfront. As Glamour magazine says, “Mistake #5: Knowing His Thread-Count Before You Know His Phone Number”. Give it some time before going all the way!
Perfect timing is very vital. If you want to date and finally wed that person, take the time and know when to get under the sheets. You need to understand him/her well before jumping to bed with them. That way, you’ll date happily and your love life will be awesome.
If you manage to avoid the above mistakes, your dating skills will be the best and finally land you in the happiness of someone else you would want to be with. As we said earlier, dating is like any sport. Know that there’s a possibility of striking and winning or losing. Avoid mistakes or if you make them, repair immediately before things are beyond repair.